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I like that. And noted about the font. Good idea!

I have had 2 clients as of late,who apparently didn't read anything about me. Clearly didn't read my likes and dislikes, didn't know how to take care of money and my limits(my webpage is under construction,as of yesterday it was all in writing)
It was so uncomfortable and weird because here I am ready to play and everything he asked for was a limit...dfk, anal and cbj. I asked him "why didn't you read about me" he went on to tell me his friend sugested me. It sure made for a boring ass and lame half attempt at salvaging an appointment. The other was just as bad since he was drunk,handed me cash and had friends show up. Just curious how the heck do you deal with a clients who didn't take the time to get to know you or beyond able to deal with? I put alot of time into my page and try and add things that are important when I remember..so I can avoid stuff like this. I wish I could review these guys That's for sure.  

I am still working on my screening process but I thinking maybe a few changes would help weed out the weirdos. Any ideas or tips to get to know a client a little better without being to forward and upfront?

**provider board won't help since I can't get approved to be on it.

Posted By: NaughtyMaddy
I have had 2 clients as of late,who apparently didn't read anything about me. Clearly didn't read my likes and dislikes, didn't know how to take care of money and my limits(my webpage is under construction,as of yesterday it was all in writing)  
 It was so uncomfortable and weird because here I am ready to play and everything he asked for was a limit...dfk, anal and cbj. I asked him "why didn't you read about me" he went on to tell me his friend sugested me. It sure made for a boring ass and lame half attempt at salvaging an appointment. The other was just as bad since he was drunk,handed me cash and had friends show up. Just curious how the heck do you deal with a clients who didn't take the time to get to know you or beyond able to deal with? I put alot of time into my page and try and add things that are important when I remember..so I can avoid stuff like this. I wish I could review these guys That's for sure.  
   
 I am still working on my screening process but I thinking maybe a few changes would help weed out the weirdos. Any ideas or tips to get to know a client a little better without being to forward and upfront?  
   
 **provider board won't help since I can't get approved to be on it.
Do whatever it's your business.Screening  process good.Turning away money?Trying to make money like rest of professionals.Working in this business deal with all kinds of guys.

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Yes I do on occasion turn away money. Not every client is a good one and not every dollar is worth dealing with that. That may be you...but I like to find clients that are a good fit. I don't fake shit for a dollar Fancy

Posted By: NaughtyMaddy
Yes I do on occasion turn away money. Not every client is a good one and not every dollar is worth dealing with that. That may be you...but I like to find clients that are a good fit. I don't fake shit for a dollar Fancy
Fake shit for dollar all paid fantasy.Clients show up without money see what happen in sessions with professionals.Clients show up without money.Wasn't you the pro made topic about  three cancellation? No pro like to lose money

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Posted By: NaughtyMaddy
Yes I do on occasion turn away money. Not every client is a good one and not every dollar is worth dealing with that. That may be you...but I like to find clients that are a good fit. I don't fake shit for a dollar Fancy

Posted By: TurbayVeronica
Posted By: NaughtyMaddy
Yes I do on occasion turn away money. Not every client is a good one and not every dollar is worth dealing with that. That may be you...but I like to find clients that are a good fit. I don't fake shit for a dollar Fancy
No professionals in the business for free sessions.That's funny to hear hookers say it not about money.Clients show up at the services without money see what happen with pros.

are functionally illiterate.

Then there are those with lazy attitudes who don't want to bother.

Your site is very good, direct and to the point.  I read it all in about two minutes.  So, that is not the problem.  (Print could be  tad larger, though.)

It's a problem that probably won't go away.  

Here's a way one gal tried to solve it:  She offered a discount to any client who could answer a question about something in her website.  Whether that did the trick or not, I don't know.

Posted By: mrfisher
are functionally illiterate.
Please take your discussion of the current administration to the P&R Board.  

Or did I not read that correctly?

...is part of doing business with the public at large.

I've been in sales, customer service and retail ops for decades and I've learned that no matter how many times you tell a jerk something important, they choose not to listen. Why? Because it's not what they want to hear and they believe that if they ignore the rules you are setting, they will eventually get what they want, the way that they want it.

Sadly, it seems to work for them quite often -- generally, some business mistakenly follows the old adage that "The customer is always right." I've taken the tack that "No, the customer ISN'T always right -- but we need to give them the benefit of the doubt."

When they show that they are going to disrespect you by not following the rules, you can try to gently correct them (usually doesn't work). Then you can either UNgently correct them or just send them on their way. Once they have revealed their jerkness, they are no longer worthy of your respect, time, knowledge or abilities. Those of us who are not jerks realize that is what a provider is providing, after all; the jerks are simply looking for the next warm receptacle.

There are some people with whom it's just not worth the time and effort. You should listen to that inner voice when you begin to feel that you're dealing with a jerk.

they skim. It's best to break down information into single-line tidbits rather than write complete sentences. Use bold face for emphasis where needed. Save the flowery prose for the intro page, but keep everything else concise.

That's not going to help you with idiots, but it will help normal guys know your requirements quickly.

As.Good.as.It.Gets263 reads

I will spend 3-5 min to check out the photos and the requirements, but I won't spend 30 min on a page that's basically advertising.

I had a hard time finding anything about what you mention on your website. Do you list or hint at your limits (there are ways to do that without being explicit), or are we supposed to get that from your TER profile and reviews? Because a lot of guys don't trust them or take them seriously. Plus, they'll push you to go beyond your menu anyway. That's just how it goes. There's a nice way to do that, and a jerky way. Sounds like you got jerks.  

I didn't see anything on your website about how to handle money. In which case I presume you prefer the normal, industry's-standard method. But if it's important to you, maybe you should make an etiquette page. Not that everyone will read it. I'd try to put what's most important to you upfront. It took me a while to figure out you are outcall only, because those sections on TER and P411 aren't where my eyes go first, and it's not immediately obviously I'm your webpage.  

Just food for thought.

After I saw your post, I checked out your profile here, your p411, and your call girl files page. It is pretty obvious you don't kiss or do anal. However, if there's anything in any of those places explaining that you won't do cbj or how exactly you want the money to be handled, I couldn't find it and I was looking for it. I remember you saying on the forums once you do not do cbj, and you gave your reasons, but you can't really ding a guy for booking without reading all your board posts. Your profile says you do bbbj, but that doesn't imply that cbj is "a limit". Not to me anyway.

Now, if you explain this to everyone when they book or whatever, and these guys kept pushing, then they're jerks. Stand up for yourself, as Lexi said. But as far as I can tell, a couple of the items you brought up, you can't expect people to know about before they contact you. Had you told them?

Most of the time the money is not just handed over. It's laid down and never mentioned. But some people might assume that if you don't talk about that on your site, then you don't care. More likely, they don't care / aren't thinking. (Actually, the guy who did that was drunk and showed up with friends so he's just a fucking idiot.) Anyways, I agree with Darmody, if that matters to you, make an etiquette page.

I do like your site. It's simple but nice and direct. Good luck.

him because he had people stopping over. That is extremely unsafe. Anyone with a little common sense knows not to do that. You could have had a dangerous situation happen.

Guys that call us, they never, ever want anyone they know to catch them or know. They don't talk on phone when answering door either (if that ever comes up for you).

Always send drunks away. Not much good happens when they show up with a cold ass cock. Didn't you at least speak on the phone prior to meeting him? A big reason why "I" speak on the phone an hour or less before. You can hear if they are drunk. Some guys don't think at all. They do dumb things when drunk.  

As far as guys not reading things, it happens a lot. I am not a stickler on it as most are. It does cause headaches though if he thinks something is a go, when it isn't. I have my own way of clarifying. The best you can do is say to them again (anyone who contacts you) to please read your website etc. That it is important to make sure you are a match.  

His friend recommended you so I get him not reading your site "because" he assumes he will get the same as a friend. It is understandable but not a good way to go. Always tell them to read your likes and dislikes for a proper match. At that point, you can't do much if he is still a derp and doesn't do it.  

If they hand you the money, just tell them to put it aside. Even some guys who have been around forever still do this.  

The big issues with having a website is that you never want a whole bunch of don'ts because they feel you are negative or picky. Just a helpful piece of advice.

You can't prevent guys who don't read from contacting you but there are ways to deal with it (and before hand vs well now they are here). Also, some guys lie and say they didn't read it when they did. They seem to think they can talk you into things in person.

I remind then to make sure (while working on the booking) to read my etiquette page for other details. As well as my cancelation policy

Posted By: NaughtyMaddy
I have had 2 clients as of late,who apparently didn't read anything about me. Clearly didn't read my likes and dislikes, didn't know how to take care of money and my limits(my webpage is under construction,as of yesterday it was all in writing)  
 It was so uncomfortable and weird because here I am ready to play and everything he asked for was a limit...dfk, anal and cbj. I asked him "why didn't you read about me" he went on to tell me his friend sugested me. It sure made for a boring ass and lame half attempt at salvaging an appointment. The other was just as bad since he was drunk,handed me cash and had friends show up. Just curious how the heck do you deal with a clients who didn't take the time to get to know you or beyond able to deal with? I put alot of time into my page and try and add things that are important when I remember..so I can avoid stuff like this. I wish I could review these guys That's for sure.  
   
 I am still working on my screening process but I thinking maybe a few changes would help weed out the weirdos. Any ideas or tips to get to know a client a little better without being to forward and upfront?  
   
 **provider board won't help since I can't get approved to be on it.

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