I only give information about me that I feel comfortable giving. My full name isn't something I give out. So when I read a provider wants my full name, I simply move on.

I'd rather not give my full information, but I have a couple of times. I look at P411 and references as my primary tools.
I have to really want to see her, obviously. It's also a question of her experience (longevity) and reputation. If someone is an unknown quantity, then hell no. But if a woman has a reputation for taking her security very seriously AND being discrete, it could be an option.

...Most providers didn't press it and used other methods (P411, WL, etc) to complete screening.

"P411 is only one tool in the verification process"

I use real information... I don't want to end up in a dumpster and dead somewhere.  

Do what you feel is conformable for you. Personally I don't meet people that I don't know their real identities... and many well reputable ladies wont do it either. Not all money is good money and ladies safety comes first.  

V~

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I may have been.  I didn't start hobbying until after I retired, so jeopardizing my livelihood was not an issue.  However, after seeing many providers, they knew my first name, if not my last name as well.  Never been a problem for me.  I can understand that many of you guys would be reluctant to give out your name, and I do respect that.  After all, how many providers' real full names do you know?

Basically, go with what you are comfortable with.  If giving out your full name is not in the cards for you, then move on.

LLAP,
Swim

can either agree to give them all the information they require or can choose to pass and move on. Lots of great well-reviewed providers to choose from in most markets.

... too bad, I kinda wanted to be with her, but no.

I've always given out my real name when contacting a provider. Nothing bad has happened yet.

If you're not being the most intelligent with the email address or phone number you want us to use to contact you, we can literally just do a reverse search and potentially find your name.

When I started in the hobby, I came up with an alias.  The providers I see know me under that alias.  If I want to see someone new, I give them my alias and references who know me by my alias.  I also signed up for a verification service using the alias by providing several references for ladies I've seen.  

If my verification service and references aren't good enough, then I move on to the next lady.  If my references tell a new lady that I'm a safe client, how does not knowing my real name make me any more of a risk?