Is this the wrong place to be looking for a connection to someone that goes beyond physical satisfaction? I find that unless I connect mentally and emotionally, the best provider leaves me feeling unsatisfied.
This is probably a "me" problem, but curious if others have found that it takes more than great sexual technique to motivate a desire for a repeat visit.
I value tremendously the interaction that takes place between provider and client, but am trying to find out if an experience can be had that transcends a good orgasm (not that there's anything wrong with that). Am I chasing a mythical creature?
be interested in a transcending emotional experience if you're willing to pay extra for it. Otherwise, enjoy the sex and forget about falling in love. You don't need TER, you need Match.com.
anything beyond a physical connection. When you start wanting something more, you are in the wrong arena. Those two dynamics can cause all kinds of problems for both parties.
I know many providers that have married their clients and are still married. Not sure if that's what you mean?
I have had some very "real" relationships with hookers/exhookers in the many years I have been doing this, but it's a huge mistake to be here actively searching for a hooker to fall in love with.
One of the most painful experiences a person can experience is "unrequited love" and a guy who wants "more" from a woman who sells sex for a living is setting himself up for heartache.
This is probably a "me" problem, but curious if others have found that it takes more than great sexual technique to motivate a desire for a repeat visit.
I value tremendously the interaction that takes place between provider and client, but am trying to find out if an experience can be had that transcends a good orgasm (not that there's anything wrong with that). Am I chasing a mythical creature?
My time is limited, so I prefer having 1, or 2 lucky gents that please me & I spoil them. I think it's way better to enjoy your time with someone who you have a connection with that is not just based on physical attraction. I have met some long time friends in this industry that started with 1 hour dates, and turned into business trips to Hawaii & Mexico. Never limit yourself, or listen to other peoples advise when you know what your seeking. Yes, you can find a real gf, or bf here it is not a fairy tale.
Not everyone is here for the same reasons. I love this hobby because there is something for everyone! Smile 4 me & Happy Easter TER friends!
I'm afraid I didn't do a very good job of explaining myself. I certainly appreciate everyone's advice, though obviously you were filling in the blanks of missing information. Entertaining, especially the advice to try Match.com, but unfortunately not the point.
Since I really am interested in exploring this, I'll try again at the risk of further ridicule. Let's start with a little more context:
I've been a TER member off and on for 6 years, but have indulged in arranged relationships for closer to 10 years - though not consistently. I prefer these types of arrangements and have no interest in a traditional girlfriend/dating,
I was spoiled once, having found a relationship with a provider that transcended the physical. We connected in ways that made the sex just a part of a greater experience. She opened me up to the taste of a good bourbon and I helped her explore tastes in entertainment. She sent me gifts for no reason, but always intuitively knew what I liked. I reciprocated best I could. There was never an illusion that the relationship was going to be more than what is was - but that was fine, because it was magnificent.
Unfortunately, I don't travel to her city anymore and am not able to plan in advance enough to bring her to me. I've been looking for something similar, but fear that lightning doesn't strike twice. There is plenty of great sex to be had, without a doubt. And I guess some nights, that's enough. It's just that it would be nice to have a reason to come back beyond a dfk and a great bj.
For me, a premium experience is one where I sense there may be a real person laying next to me. I find that worth more than a DD cup and a tight CG any day.
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