How does a civilian dating work for an established provider? Bye Honey, I am going to work! Then go and see 3 guys. My guess is it can be one or the other, not both. My 2 cents and not my judgment written in blood.
Maybe there's no going back...
I've heard the expression that there's no such thing as bad pizza or bad sex, but isn't mediocre sex basically the same thing as bad sex?
This past weekend, I had sex with a "civilian," who was very nice and reasonably attractive. Though she has been in relationships, and is not inexperienced, her skills were limited and she didn't turn me on nearly the way some our beauties do from this board. I struggled to stay aroused and engaged during the experience. I tried to fantasize about some of our All-stars while we had sex, but it didn't work. I did not use Viagra or any other so-called enhancement.
Sigh. Oh, what to do....
Needless to say, I was thinking about YOU while I was intimate with my civie 
Ha! Me too Elle!! I have crossed paths with some of the nicest men in this hobby and the real world just doesn't compare to them!
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How does a civilian dating work for an established provider? Bye Honey, I am going to work! Then go and see 3 guys. My guess is it can be one or the other, not both. My 2 cents and not my judgment written in blood.
We ladies are more experienced on pleasing a man and making him feel special. This is the most important bottom line of what we do. We have many first dates with unknown gentleman so performance anxiety isn't all that common for us. Even on a wing and a prayer I can read a gentleman's cue better than when I was inexperienced. A lady with few experiences seldom will perform like an escort and actually wants to be pleased a hell of a lot more than pleasing you. I'm afraid you have been spoiled by all the all-star ladies you have been with.
Kisses Haley
All good points, Haley. It was actually a first date, and we are going to get together again. I need to work on creating the necessary separation from my personal life and hobbying. Thanks for commenting.
So you are reading to take the plunge? I can't even think of settling down or dating or anything on those lines. I am having fun at my whim and fancy with no holds. I did have a few one night stands with couple of hot young women at work without raising red flags. That's about it outside of hobbying. I like hobbying as I get to see hot ladies all over with multitude of variations in age, height, hair, boobs and legs. If I cannot get one there are 5 others ready.
in this hobby for nearly two decades, it's easy for me to admit that a one-night stand with a civilian way back when Reagan was in office was the BEST sexual experience of my now, mature life! I was late 20s and she was late 30s and she taught me what wonderful lovers, mature women are! So, while my time with her was measured in hours, the experience of being with mature women has given me pleasures for years!
Oh, and just because a lady suddenly charges for her time, does not translate her into an instant Super-Lover! I've have many cold boloney sandwiches in this hobby!
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Poor guy who actually got a civvie to have sex with him....then wants to compare the experience to his 135 pro experiences?
So sorry that she didn't live up to your expectations. Expectations born from a long time of buying time and attention, yet perhaps in denial that the money mattered.
"What to do" is stick with pros. Your obvious exaggerated sense of self and narcissistic view needs to keep you in the corral of the game.
Women of the world have had enough of a hard time. The last thing they need is someone like you degrading them any further.
Just sayin'
DD
What an asshole you are. Sounds like my original post really struck a nerve with you. I wonder why. Sound like you are stuck in the same corral of the game, and that I may as well have been posting on your behalf.
"Women of the world have had enough of a hard time. The last thing they need is someone degrading them any further." What the fuck do you mean by that? How does my post/inquiry degrade women? How is my post offensive or negative in any way toward women? And, when did you become a white knight, protecting the women of the world, as you put it? My civilian date would be so proud to know that she has an advocate in you.
The point of the post was that I was struggling between having a "real" relationship with a woman outside the hobby who is an incredible person but not that sexually dynamic, and a "pro" who offers the sexual gratification that the civilian did not. Nobody else who responded to this post was offended or troubled by the issue I presented. For some reason, you are. Go stick your faux outrage, accusations, and negativity someplace far, far away. Go be a douchebag somewhere else.
10 points to Diago. Whaddaya know, pros are better than civies. Who woulda thunk it? However, the pros don't want to have your ugly children or bring you soup when you are sick. Some trade off have to be made and this apparently is too complicated for you.
Thank you for taking some time away from your Astrophysics Ph.D studies to weigh in on this. Your contribution is meaningful and substantive.
Nobody else who responded to this post was offended or troubled by the issue I presented. For some reason, you are. Go stick your faux outrage, accusations, and negativity someplace far, far away. Go be a douchebag somewhere else.
I agree with you, civvies would be tough to go back to after seeing some very sexy pros.....
The good news is he doesn't post much, so there's that.
Let's take the average Joe who is single and wants to get laid. Given that he has the money and the personal appeal, he can date a pro from the top-rated end of the spectrum. But if he takes the civvie route instead, it's much more difficult to find a woman with skills comparable to a good pro.
Here's my theory. Civilian gals run a spectrum of their own from great-in-bed to just plain dull. Any top performer is very likely to be in a faithful relationship that keeps her out of circulation. It goes with the territory. Civvies who do circulate – and might be available for Joe – would come from the duller end of the spectrum.
Yes, a few great-in-bed civvies do mess around outside of their relationships. But landing one of them could be a challenge for our average Joe. Furthermore, those gals are probably looking for a "faster" guy than Joe.
Joe needs to consult a website that ranks pick-up bars in the big cities!
She couldn't have been too exciting trying to deal with a guy with a limp dick. Give her another chance to wow you once she sees the old fella in all its glory.