On Sunday, I received several calls and texts pleading with me to talk to this man's wife.  I do not think I saw her husband, but he definitely emailed me.  I think it's best to keep my mouth shut, to not get implicated in any way.  Discretion is my main concern and that's the only way to insure that nothing gets revealed.  

Has this happened to you?  If so, how did you handle the situation?

I just ignore ignore ignore ignore........that's the best thing to do!!!


It's a part of this job ya know some people don't know how to cross their t's and dot their i's!!!


Toodles


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Tootaloo

...the morning after he passed. Many issues arose and it was like opening Pandora's Box. Do not discuss anything. Do not reply. PM me or call me to find out the whole story. This is an awesome topic, but I am not sure a public response is appropriate in this delicate situation.

is so strict...

Three times in one month: (a while ago)

One guy had a fellow escort as a girlfriend and when I left a visitor message thanking him for visiting me, the shit hit the fan... like I was supposed to know not to leave a polite message on a private board. I told both of them to deal with each other and leave me out of it, thankfully nothing ever came of it.

Next, was a client I had seen several times, sent me an email super early in the morning after 2 or 3 emails back in forth before I was even out of bed-I realized it was NOT my client, but the wife posing as him-(passwords boys...)
She knew I knew when I sent the last email as something like... Too bad you are reading your husbands emails instead of sucking his dick like a good wife should be first thing in the morning-never heard from either of them again...

And lastly, was a crazy bitch, who sent an email to all of us on his Datecheck-threatening us, and saying she was going to become one of us to get at us for ruining her life????? ummmmm, excuse me???? I did not answer her, because she really went into graphic detail about only things he would have known-it scared me thinking how she got that info out of him-as far as I know-nothing ever came of it-but of course never heard from him again, and am still here thriving so...guess I'm OK-

I was pretty new when all that happened, so I was pretty annoyed and just reacted, now I just accept it is part of the business and think just ignoring her would be best. She is not your responsibility to try and make her understand why he cheats. That IMHO, is his mess to cleanup regardless of if you saw him or not. Even if you say, I never saw him, lets be honest-she is not going to believe anything coming out of your mouth so why bother.

I would HIGHLY recommend blacklisting him. He has allowed his email to be compromised and now any lady who might deal with "him" might really be dealing with her.

Guys-many of you think we are crazy for some of our policies-nonsense like this is why we have to be. We never know who we are dealing with. There has been a few times a regular has sent me kind of sexy email and my first reaction is can I give you a call to verify your wish to meet me- (again so I do not let on, that I actually know this person).

If there is a way for you to block the number on your phone that is probably the best. If not, store as DNA.

I am sorry this has happened and sadly I am sure every well known lady can say it has happened at least once.  Sadly, it has happened to me too.

Is another reason why I won't take phone references as I have no idea who is calling me. I just act stupid when a lady calls and asks for Makenzie.

Keep your head up...

Felt terrible for the widow. She had NO idea about his second life and he was into it pretty good. I can't imagine finding all of this out AFTER my husband passed. So many unanswered questions. Really tough.

...and leaving me hate messages. He husband was sloppy and acted like he *wanted* to get caught due to marital problems. I felt bad (always do when someone gets hurt!) but there was nothing I could have said that would have helped her, him or them so said nothing. She kept going with the ugly phone calls but  wasn't too bright unfortunately. She was calling me from an unblocked number –– her work phone – at a University. I placed one phone call to her husband (ex-client) and told him that if she didn't stop calling me I would be forced to call the University to report the harassing phone calls coming from her on campus number, xxx-xxx-xxxx. Never heard from them again.

Wouldn't it be simpler to deflect the angry spouse's attention by redirecting it towards her husband? After all, he's the one who cheated on her and broke their vows of marriage, NOT you.

That is a valid point, however I don't have evidence that he did cheat nor is it my job to fry someone for cheating.  Afterall, I am an escort.  That's not my place, I'm here to bring companionship and discretion to gentlemen.

I simply tell her she has the wrong number. I hang up and then place that number on my DNA list.
It's not my place to be her therapist, her tattletale, or her informant.  
What happens between me and the MR is between me and the MR.
Nobody else!

Xox

I had a few women call saying they were providers looking for references. As a newbie here, stupid me fell for it hook line and sinker. The first lady that called I said he was a nice gentlemen and no more. She said thanks and hung up. The next day another women called for a reference for the same guy and I said the same thing. Never figured out who she was but the first one turned out to be a crazy women after contacting many providers. Thank God I was out of state so she left me alone.

If anyone wants a reference now it's got to be from e-mail. Yes, I check the e-mail through google and their profile. I am not comfortable with phone references unless I know the lady . Recently had 2 ladies call me for references from phone numbers not listed on their profiles or websites. If your reading this maybe you'll understand why I do things my way.

I would avoid any conversation with a wife. There's nothing worse than a woman scorned. An escort is looked down on by the average women so you are guilty no matter what. A husband can be forgiven but you will never be.

Kisses Haley

Or are you a lady?

A deceased hobbyists wife contacted me after he died 4 years later. I wasn't his provider . She's stopped.

Prior to that , a very much alive hobbyists spouse called me pretending to be a provider who needed a
reference until I asked her for her website .

One other decided to text me as if she were her husband . Made threats , and all that stuff.

Ignore is the best solution but if the wife gets a hold of her mans log in it can be damaging

so I always have a test question .


Angela

Are you a lady?

Not at all. One does NOT have to be a shrink to redirect misdirected anger in the right direction. It IS pretty simple to do.

So why are you bothering to bring this topic up at all on a public fck board if you are not sure that a public response is appropriate?

-- Modified on 5/9/2012 11:42:04 AM

My apologies. I thought you were addressing the entire board, not just Sunny Daze.

learn to change the subject line it makes for much better reading.

-- Modified on 5/9/2012 3:54:16 PM

-- Modified on 5/9/2012 3:57:54 PM

Thanks for the compliment. Regrettably, I cannot be bothered to change the subject line. Sorry.

Sorry i dont talk to wifes... not my style.. i run my own biss so if they call sorry mam this is my biss line. I dont have time for BS

... since you know, the original question was for providers but if I may respectfully give my $0.02.

In my younger days I used to... get around. I liked to mess around a LOT (I was in college, let me be), sometimes with ladies that were...uhm... married. An angry husband called me one day about 20 times and left about 10 Voicemails... He was angry and threatening. He continued for a few days...

You know what? I ignored it.

And after about a week, he never bothered again. I wasn't "scared" nor did I need a testosterone-fueled pissing contest with the dude. But I respected my privacy and HER privacy and did not want to complicate things for her even more.

So... I guess my point is, as others have said already that IGNORING it works... even on stubborn guys.


PS> If you care about story endings... They never divorced (far as I know, this was long ago). Go figure...