Re: bdsm on the menu

From my own perspective, even if it's not on the menu I don't mind being asked about role play, BDSM, etc. I would rather get a sense of the person before I openly embrace BDSM as an option. It's a complete and utter turn on for me but there are way too many people who misunderstand the paradigms and crux of BDSM play. Even on P411 I don't add it on the menu with a "better safe than sorry" approach. In essence both parties lose out from the handful who misunderstand the play as an excuse for genuine disregard and disrespect. I would say if a menu is expansive in general, simply ask. I don't consider it taboo at all...simply a slippery slope in the quality of gentleman and the ways in which I am treated. I was hopeful from an intellectual perspective that 50 Shades of Gray might educate the general public as I think it portrays some of the essential paradigms of this play but the misconceptions persist.

Once someone is screened I do not mind being asked about specifics such as clothing requests, role play scenarios or toys.  I do not like requests that are too graphic until we have met for the first time, but I do like to know how to properly prepare and dress for a session.

I am very open about my alter ego (slaveangie) even to the extent of having a separate website, which is also published here on my profile, to advertise my BDSM side.