I've had 3 ATFs move on to retirement. At the moment I hate when it happens but, in each case, it was good for them. And when one door closes ..... opportunity knocks. Currently I'm working on establishing two regulars as 'retirement insurance'.
I met her in 2011 when she was a newbie, just 19 years old. I suppose it's stupid to fall in love at first sight with an escort, but, damn. Over the years since then we became very close and I helped her in certain ways beyond the normal provider/client framework. She is simply the most beautiful, sexually responsive and sexually creative woman I've ever met. I emailed her a few days ago to ask for another date and she replied she was retiring and shutting down her web presence. Damn. She was very sweet about it and commented on our special friendship. She also said that if she ever gets back in the business I'll be the first one to know, which is sweet. But damn. Life won't be the same knowing I may never see her again.
Unfortunately it's a fact of our lives.
I've had a few over the years move on.
Had one come back after two years (and 40#) and that was a shocker lol
... business-wise or otherwise, that can reduce your sadness because you're happy for her being able to go down the new path and try something new.
When my ATF retires, I hope it's because she'll be doing something in the field in which she recently got her degree or doing something else she loves. And then I'll be a little sad, but mostly I'll be glad for her. She loves being a provider (most days anyway) but will probably go low-volume UTR or retire altogether once she had her kids' educations funded.
She is definitely going on to new ventures and I've told her she will be an amazing success at anything she tries. She's really that multi talented. Anyway I have wished her the best, and feel privileged to have known her.
I've had 3 ATFs move on to retirement. At the moment I hate when it happens but, in each case, it was good for them. And when one door closes ..... opportunity knocks. Currently I'm working on establishing two regulars as 'retirement insurance'.
I'm working on replacement ATFs as well. But I live in such a target poor environment that there aren't many to choose from. Having some retirement insurance sounds like a great plan if I could make it happen!
happens and the two things you can do are:
(1) wish her all the best in her future endeavors
(2) continue to see other providers once in a while just to keep a current knowledge of quality ladies in your area
Totally agree!
1. Already done it! She's a rock star at anything she does.
2. I just wish there were more quality ladies in my area!
I know the lady in question, although not for nearly as long. God lord, I count myself lucky to have met her. Total Unicorn.
Despite our acquaintance being only 8 months, she also sent me a nice note. And now her TER profile is gone and her pfour account is "inactive". Her web site now just has an "I'm fine but on a break" and I expect it will disappear soon 
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I think she is leaving very much on her own terms, having achieved extraordinary success in this business, and somehow remaining one of the sweetest ladies I've ever met. She had the reviews to be a 10/10 queen, and in fact was the only 10/10 I've ever given, but she remained sweet, modest, sincerely engaging and a pleasure to see, in every way.
She's leaving as she worked: a class act. I'll miss her a lot.
I remember how sad I was when my ATF retired ten or twelve years ago. And at the same time happy for her, because she also was leaving on her own terms, having started college in her mid-30s to prepare for a new career. She was a tall, beautiful strawberry blonde, a sexual goddess; and beyond that she shared my love of eclectic reading, bad puns, and quirky music, and she was one of the smartest and kindest people I've ever known. Hopeless romantic that I am, I have had the occasional harmless crush, but she is the only provider I ever had to make a conscious effort not to fall in love with. I think I did anyway, a little. I still think of her from time to time (obviously) and wonder how she is doing. I still miss her.
I had a similar experience, with a happy ending. I had been seeing Debbie Hollander when she was working for an agency in Chicago. I was smitten and she quickly became my ATF. She ultimately retired and I was very disappointed and missed her.
Lo-and-behold, several years later, she rejoined the industry, this time as an independent. We reconnected and I have been enjoying her company ever since. My only problem is that she is great at what she does, has a brilliant mind for marketing and has begun touring. She became TER provider of the month as well. So.... she is in high demand and out of town frequently, thus actually seeing her requires significant forethought and planning. But truly, I'm happy for her. BTW she always makes an extra effort to be flexible in seeing me, which is very appreciated.